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Look at this life – all mystery and magic. – Harry Houdini
Happy Thursday, my friends!
I have a question: what's your favorite season of the year? Your answer most likely depends on where you live. In my opinion, as a Texan, I love fall and winter. Christmas and Halloween are definitely my favorite holidays.
Why? I feel like as we get closer to the end of the year, something shifts in the air. Of course, the weather gets a little cooler, the leaves change color, and everyone starts to dress a little differently. (You should see my closet in winter!)
But, really, there seems to be some magic in the air. Moods lighten. Attitudes change. People go outside a little more often in the fall – at least, they do here.
Every year, I have a specific autumn routine: pumpkin patch visits are a must, decorating my room to reflect the changing leaves, watching certain Halloween movies, and dressing up for each fall occasion that arises.
Something about the season puts me in a better mood.
It's a good feeling: the weight of the world lifting because joy is found in something familiar.
Every year it happens, and, every year, I find myself wishing I had that feeling all year long.
Maybe you experience this, too. If spring is YOUR season, when fall comes, you may wish you could feel the freshness of springtime all over again.
It comes down to our point of view and how we associate moments with feelings.
Have you ever noticed yourself listening to a song, and suddenly, you're taken back five years to a particular memory with friends you don't talk to anymore, and nostalgia hits you like a ton of bricks?
You may not always find magic in situations or seasons like I previously mentioned. In fact, you may actually dislike certain things because of the memory and emotions they elicit.
This is because emotionally charged situations stick with us longer than the ordinary flicker of feeling we experience during normal events. Emotion plays a heavy handin the process of encoding (the remembering of) information in our brains, strengthening our memories, and when we retrieve that memory, our emotion is automatically tied with it.
(This can also happen with scents!)
It makes sense, really, but the reason I want to mention that is because the way we perceive events affects our future and the responses we'll have when the time comes for the memory to arise.
We can change things now so the future responses are more positive and less upsetting. As Dr. Mary Lamia puts it, "we can't erase emotional memories, although we can be aware of what activates them and the interpretations we make" (2017).
In other words: we can make the conscious effort to see current events in a more emotionally uplifting light.
"Looking on the bright side" of things is easier said than done, but we can make small steps to do them, one day at a time.
Now, negative things happen around us all the time (unfortunate, but true). However, we can try to perceive the situations a little differently by thinking of how what's happening now could positively influence the future.
For example: if you lose a friend who had been depositing toxicity in your life, it may take a second to recognize that was happening and the loss will hurt, but you'll be able to realize that your mental health will be all the better for the loss in the future.
2. Practicing Gratitude
When something "bad" happens, try to pay a little more attention to what good things are happening around you simultaneously.
Perhaps your boss lectured you at work today, but you came home and your child received an A on a test they'd been studying very hard for. Shift your emotions to focus on that splash of positivity instead.
3. Avoiding Negative Thinking
Look... I know this is hard to just "do" – and we all try to do this anyway, but hear me out. If you find your thoughts revolving around somber thoughts, try:
None of this happens overnight, but seeking the magical things in life is possible. Start small – smile at a stranger, look for a cute animal walking in the park, go outside and take a deep breath when the sun is shining.
Our lives hold more magic than we realize. We just need to pay a little more attention to it.
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